Tuesday I found myself in the cardiac care unit of NYU Langone Medical Center. On the way to the emergency room I wondered for a few minutes if I were on my way to meet my old friend [John Harrell](/other/2008-12-23-in-honor-of-john-david-harrell-iii.md) on the other side.A long time ago on a contract far, far away, our PMO (Project Management Organization) lead took us to task. You are all focusing too much on what is wrong here.On Monday night, June 30, 2008, a bright light departed. John was my buddy. He was one of my closest friends, and probably among the best friends of many people who knew him. He was in good health, always upbeat and filled with optimism. His death at 50 from an aortal aneurism was sudden, unexpected, shocking.Transitioning relationships from work into other parts of our lives requires a little work – but can happen. It won’t happen automatically.When someone resigns, there are inevitable questions. We want to know why. We want to know how it will impact us. Some questions we ask.