Young women demeaning themselves

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Scene 1 - At the Target

It’s a quiet morning at the Target. The long aisles are almost deserted. I’m halfway down the coffee and tea aisle when the sound of a woman cursing into her phone drowns out the Muzak. She’s young, probably not even 20 years old. And the graphic detail of her language is truly ugly.

Don’t think I’m shocked. We’ve all heard all the words. The issue is not embarrassment (though maybe it should be). It’s the protectiveness of a father for a daughter, or an uncle for a beloved niece. With every word, this girl is harming herself. And she doesn’t even know it.

I wrote recently about the enemy’s love of demeaning people. How much more glee he gets when those which should be the most innocent of us are deeply involved in their own humiliation?

Now, you might be asking, What’s wrong with some bad language? She’ll grow out of it. And even if she doesn’t, they’re only words. Yes, all true. But words have meaning. And the quality of the language you use is an accurate marker of the quality of your heart.

Do not ye yet understand…those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. 19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness,** blasphemies**: 20 These are [the things] which defile a man: - Matthew 15.17-20

The volume of the girl’s speaking was anything but lady-like. That was bad enough. But it was the content which was obscene. And she didn’t seem upset. This was her normal way of speaking. When I got to the end of the aisle, I waited until her phone call was over then stopped to get her attention.

“I couldn’t help but overhear some of your conversation. Is everything okay?”

“What do you mean?”, she asked.

“Well, the way that you were speaking is concerning. You are humiliating yourself with your language. I know that you don’t mean anything by it. But it’s true. Whenever anyone hears you speaking like that, they will think less of you, whether they tell you or not.”

Scene 2 - Around the neighborhood

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies. -Proverbs 31.10

It’s a beautiful Spring day on a residential city street in an American city. Two normal looking women in their 20’s are having a conversation on the street corner as they wait for the red light to turn. What they’re saying would make Jerry Springer blush.

“Well I told him that he couldn’t because he and ,” says woman 1.

“That does that every Friday night!” says woman 2.

“It’s boring, ,” says woman 1. Then they both laugh and continue. They are speaking so loud that it’s impossible not to hear them half a block away.

Vive la différence

The farther American society moves to deny biological reality, the stranger things become. Just imagine how ugly the world would be if all women were hard and cold. Just as we see boys being punished for being boys, girls are being trained to adopt the most despicable male traits imaginable.

Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. -Exodus 20.7

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Originally published at: Comfort for Christians



If there is one thing I hate the most, is being forced to hear some person repeatedly take the Lords Name in vain. Frivolously exclaiming His Name as if it were a curse word! Such utterance practice only showcases the sad and pathetic condition of the lost priceless soul. Also, it highlights the poor parental upbringing which apparently allowed this blasphemy speech to be embedded within the the offspring individual. “……The transgression of the wicked saith within my heart, that there is no fear of God before his eyes.” - Psalm 36:1

I hear this a lot, too. TERRIBLE language that, literally “would have made a sailor blush” (remember that expression?)…and in 17 yr old girls. There is nothing in their lives to keep them from demeaning themselves in this manner. Thats the really sad thing. And Shame is simply not allowed…no need for it because, today, “Anything Goes”. I am a jazz singer and used to sing that old song…I got to thinking that “When Anything Goes, EVERYTHING goes.” Did the girl not respond to you? She was probably busy sending naked selfies to a boyfriend…or a guy shed just met. SHOCKING….its AWFUL out there.

Jazz singer - wonderful! Yes, that phrase would have made a sailor blush captures it. She was quite defensive, which is understandable. I might have been the only adult male who has ever lovingly and caringly disciplined her. My prayer is that it may have planted a pebble in her shoe as Greg Koukl puts it, which will lead her to think. Alec